About 15 years ago when I worked at a newspaper, there were two photographers on staff who met there and eventually got married. One day I asked Mary how married life was treating her.

“It’s like being alone, only better,” she said.

This came back to me this week because this is precisely what I want to experience in a meaningful relationship. Only people who find joy in solitude can understand how perfect that statement is.

That said, I adore my solitude, but I find lately I don’t need as much of it as I used to. I do, however, need a man who respects my independence and who “has a life” himself. Two whole entities make for a more meaningful merger, yes?

I believe I am forming a clear affirmation here.