I was compelled this weekend to buy Wayne Dyer’s new book about the Tao Te Ching called Change Your Thoughts — Change Your Life, Living the Wisdom of the Tao. I had seen him talking about it on PBS one day and was drawn in by his anecdotes and his relaxed style. And, of course, by the topic.

Lao-Tzu wrote 81 verses (To see them all, check out http://academic.brooklyn.cuny.edu/core9/phalsall/texts/taote-v3.html) and Dyer has pondered each one and written an essay on it. What struck me immediately is that by its very nature and structure, the book is asking me to practice discipline and patience. In other words, don’t devour the book but take one verse and its corresponding essay and live with it for a few days.

And so that brings me to my mission here: manifesting a man for a wonderful relationship. Dyer says of the first verse, “Let relationships be … since everything is going to stretch out in Divine order. Don’t try so hard to make something work — simply allow.” Okay.

But this verse is also about the difference between trying and doing. And this goal I have is alternately those things, depending on the day. What this blog allows me to do is keep it on my radar and not put it aside as I have been known to do through various stages of my life.

It matters more now. It just does.