I just started reading He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo, a consultant and writer, respectively, from Sex and the City. Now when I say just started, I mean just started. A friend gave it to me last night and I began reading it on the subway ride home. I could probably stop at page 14 because I’ve got the lesson loud and clear.
For those not familiar with the show and this book, the idea came about over one of the show’s pitch meetings. A room full of women were talking about dating experiences as part of the material for Sex and the City and there happened to be a guy in the room that day — Behrendt. While the women tried to solve each other’s dating issues — as women are prone to do — Behrendt piped in with “He’s just not that into you.” The women were appalled at first, but then it seems a sense of liberation took over. They mirrored that in the script when it made its way onto the show.
No more wondering if he’s scared, still bruised after a bad breakup, afraid to ruin the friendship, taking it slow, very busy, coy, etc. If he’s interested, he’s calling and making another date. If he’s interested, he making his move. Bottom line. Simple.
Wow. Is this common sense wisdom or what?