Memo to Mrs. Sanford
Dear Jenny:
I typically don’t presume to know what someone is going through and insert my two cents, but I am compelled to write this and it is coming from a place of compassion and empathy. I understand and admire your commitment to your vows, but for your own sanity and emotional well-being, please cut your losses from this marriage and run for the exit.
From today’s press conference with your husband, South Carolina Gov. Mark Sanford:
During an emotional interview at his Statehouse office with The Associated Press on Tuesday, Sanford said Chapur is his soul mate but he’s trying to fall back in love with his wife.
This is so sad. It must be wrenching for you to hear because it cut right through me and I don’t know either of you. I can’t imagine going through it publicly.
Please set the divorce in motion so that you and your children can begin healing and living. I am sending good thoughts your way.
Warmly,
Nancy
The Aladdin factor
So yesterday I take a packed bus from the Jersey Shore to the Port Authority in New York. As we proceed on the Garden State Parkway, I am getting hotter and less comfortable because there is very little air coming from the overhead vents.
The more we ride and the more stifling it gets, I marvel at how most buses are way too air conditioned and that I’m on one that has the opposite problem. It clearly would have been better if we had the ability to open the windows.
About 30 minutes into the journey, a man gets up from the middle of the bus and goes up to talk to the driver. Within a minute there is cold air pouring from the vents around me. I tell the guy next to me that I can’t believe someone had to actually ask for what seemed like an obvious thing — air conditioning in June on a packed bus.
“Welcome to the world we live in now,” my fellow passenger said.
Hmmmmm.
An annoying lesson in ‘ask and ye shall receive.’
This life
Mortality is swirling around me these days. Friends and cousins who are losing parents. The passing of famous people both expected and sudden. It feels concentrated this past few weeks.
If I died tomorrow, what would I regret not doing? Hmmmm. Where’s that bucket list?
Boogie Nights & MJ
Never anticipated how poignant it would feel to dance like a wild woman to Michael Jackson’s music, but that’s exactly how it felt last night at Boogie Nights in Atlantic City. Dancing to music from the 70s and 80s tends to bring out the dancer in me anyway, but with the sudden death of Jackson it was electric.
After telling the “crew” I was with that I’d go crazy if the D.J. played Don’t Stop ‘Til You Get Enough or Billie Jean, imagine the insanity when he played them consecutively after a moment of silence. Brilliant.
May he be at peace.
Enjoying Evanovich
I’ve been wanting to interview author Janet Evanovich for a long time and was delighted to get the chance as Finger Lickin’ Fifteen featuring Stephanie Plum hit the shelves this week.
Today’s Game Plan is Evanovich on Writing and Living.
When a man loves a woman
Just got around to reading The New York Times Style section from last weekend. Found this quote from the groom in the Vows column interesting. He’s talking about what was going through his mind when he was dating the 40-something, never-been-married, professionally successful woman who is now his wife.
“I wasn’t sure how hard to press the gas,” said Mr. Buckner, who said he struggled at first to figure out why she was still single. “I’m thinking there’s one of two possible explanations. She’s just getting around to it, and in the interim, she’s been dealing with a bunch of losers. Or maybe she’s got commitment issues.”
Love how insightful that is. And I guess we know the answer.
The Kagan principle
When several people pointed me to DarynKagan.com within the span of a week, I knew it was worth looking at. I enjoy the former CNN anchor’s ambitiousness in covering inspiring news and creating content that is positive. (Readers of this space know I have a similar mission!)
Today’s Game Plan is the product of my interview with Kagan – Outside the Safe Zone: Daryn Kagan’s New Career.
Big Lula
Had a terrific hour-long interview with Janet Evanovich on Monday and just finished writing the Game Plan column that will go live on Friday. In the meantime, here’s a fun tidbit from the conversation that didn’t make the column that Stephanie Plum fans will appreciate.
In The New York Times review of the latest in the series, Finger Lickin’ Fifteen, the way Marilyn Stasio refers to recurring character Lula made Janet chuckle.
“She called Lula fat,” Evanovich said. “There’s a world of hurt there. You say something like that and Lula’s gonna come get you.”
Those of us who have come to love the endearing former hooker who wears spandex a few sizes too small and threatens to sit on people don’t doubt it for a minute.
Attitude of gratitude
Celebrated Father’s Day (complete with Mom’s pot roast) with Dad yesterday since my parents are attending a graduation party today.
Must confess that this day brings out a different feeling in me these days — gratitude. Most of my friends and relatives my age have lost at least one parent. Lucille and John Colasurdo are still with us, as doting as ever.
Thank you.
Thriving hearts
What a pleasure it was to talk to Ian and Stefan Gerard about Gen Art, their passion, for today’s Game Plan. With the recession doing a number on corporate funding, the company, designed to showcase up-and-coming artists, is now seeking funding from other sources. Check out the info on its upcoming 15th anniversary benefit, what Zac Posen has to say, and the overall mission in Thriving Hearts Keep Gen Art Beating.
